Hey, friend. Can we have a heart-to-heart for a moment? I want to talk about something that’s been weighing on my mind—and probably on yours, too—whether you realize it or not. It’s the lies we’ve been told about our bodies. You know the ones. The sneaky little messages that creep in when you’re scrolling social media, flipping through a magazine, or even just trying to find a pair of jeans that actually fit.
Somewhere along the way, society decided to tell us that our bodies weren’t good enough. Not slim enough, not curvy enough, not smooth enough, not tall enough…just not enough. And we believed it, didn’t we? Even if we didn’t want to, even if we tried to fight it, those lies settled in. They’re hard to shake.
The Endless “Fix-It” Mentality
Here’s the thing: We live in a world that profits off our insecurities. There’s an entire industry built around convincing us that we need to “fix” ourselves. New diets, miracle creams, workout plans, shapewear that promises to tuck, lift, and smooth every curve. It’s exhausting, isn’t it?
But let me tell you something—and I need you to hear this, okay? You don’t need fixing. Not now, not ever. Your body isn’t a project. It’s not a trend. It’s not something that needs approval from anyone else to be valid or beautiful.
Who Gets to Decide What’s Beautiful?
Here’s a fun (and by “fun,” I mean frustrating) fact: The beauty standards we kill ourselves trying to meet? They change. All the time. What was “in” ten years ago might be totally out now. Think about it: Remember when having thigh gaps was a thing? Or when the “heroin chic” look was all the rage? Now it’s all about curves, but only if they’re in “the right places.”
It’s all so arbitrary. And honestly, who gets to decide what’s beautiful, anyway? Spoiler alert: It’s not anyone else but you. Beauty isn’t about fitting into some cookie-cutter mold. It’s about confidence. It’s about showing up as yourself, unapologetically, and owning who you are.
Boudoir Photography: A Big Middle Finger to Those Lies
That’s one of the reasons I’m so passionate about boudoir photography. For me, it’s more than just taking beautiful photos—it’s about breaking free from all those lies we’ve been told. It’s about giving you the chance to see yourself the way the people who love you see you: radiant, unique, and completely breathtaking.
Boudoir photography is about celebrating your body, not in spite of its “flaws,” but because of them. The stretch marks that tell the story of bringing life into the world. The laugh lines that prove you’ve found joy. The curves, the scars, the freckles—all of it. That’s what makes you you.
But I Don’t Look Like the Women in Your Portfolio
Ah, this one comes up all the time. I can’t tell you how many women have said, “But Critsey, I don’t look like the women in your photos.” And every time, I say the same thing: Those women didn’t think they looked like the women in my photos either.
Here’s the truth: None of us see ourselves clearly. We’re our own worst critics. But when you step in front of my camera, something magical happens. You start to see yourself differently. You start to see what I see—the beauty, the strength, the light that shines from within you.
And let me tell you, there’s nothing more rewarding than watching someone’s face light up when they see their photos for the first time. It’s like they’re finally seeing themselves for who they really are.
It’s Not About Perfection
One of the biggest lies we’ve been fed is that beauty equals perfection. But perfection? It’s boring. It’s airbrushed. It’s unattainable. Real beauty is messy and complicated and wonderfully imperfect.
When you book a boudoir session with me, I’m not looking for “perfect.” I’m looking for real. I want to capture the way your eyes light up when you laugh, the way your body curves and moves. I want to celebrate the parts of you that you’ve been told to hide, because those are the parts that make you you.
Your Body Deserves to Be Celebrated
At the end of the day, your body is the only one you’ve got. It’s carried you through every single moment of your life—the good, the bad, the messy, and the magical. It’s worth celebrating, exactly as it is.
So if you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to do a boudoir shoot—waiting to lose the weight, or tone up, or whatever other condition you’ve put on your worth—stop waiting. Right now is the perfect time.
Let’s Rewrite the Narrative
Imagine this: Instead of looking in the mirror and picking yourself apart, you look in the mirror and see someone who is confident, strong, and unapologetically herself. Instead of hiding from the camera, you step in front of it and own your space.
Boudoir photography isn’t just about photos. It’s about empowerment. It’s about rewriting the narrative, tearing up those lies we’ve been told, and replacing them with truths. Truths like: You are beautiful. You are enough. You are worthy.
Ready to Take the Leap?
If this resonates with you—if you’re ready to stop believing the lies and start embracing the truth—I’d love to help you on that journey. A boudoir session is about so much more than the photos. It’s about seeing yourself in a whole new light.
You deserve that. You deserve to feel beautiful. You deserve to feel enough. And I promise, you already are.